Societal norm: On Valentines day the man buys flowers, chocolates, and a reservation at a classy hotel in exchange for sex in a red teddy.
Rather than: paying attention to your partner year round and speaking their love language as often as possible, whether it be gifts, quality time, touch, words of affirmation, or acts of service.
In this case, the societal norm is almost offensive as it only caters to one (or maybe two if you count dinner together as quality time) love language, when most people speak all 5 to various degrees. Moreover, the fact that gifts are given with an expectation of reward makes them a payment, and therefore rather degrading, making it incredibly offensive. On top of all of that, it's a complete distortion of the meaning behind the holiday (which is to celebrate love and how powerful it is in the face of adversity), and now has no meaning beyond blatant consumerism that revolves around a 'pudgy, ill equipped little guy... you know, cupid?'. And lastly, 53% of women say that if their partner doesn't get them anything, they will end the relationship. Yup. That seems like a great holiday. I can feel the love. Yea... that's love, right? Oh. No. That's psychotic and purely driven by Hallmark, Victoria's Secret, and Trojan. Frankly, I have no interest in the holiday. I will not be offended if Anthem doesn't do anything special because he does something special every single day by listening, loving, laughing, and growing with me.
Societal Norm: 0
Almost any other rational option: 1
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