We are made up of the choices we make when faced with life. The grief, the pain, the joy, the lessons, the love, the memories, the consequences. The past is rarely the past. It affects us most days whether we realize it or not. The lessons we have learned have shaped us. There is a reason we don't try to touch fire anymore. We learned that while useful, if can be extremely painful. We learned to swim because while water is fun, it can be dangerous. Our every day actions and decisions are formed because of what we've learned in the past.
This especially applies to relationships. We act and react based on lessons learned. We've all heard the same thing from people. "I won't hurt you." "I'm not like the ones before me." "You can trust me." And after a while, we just stop trusting people. We've heard it all before and so we're just too guarded, we've been lied to too many times to just jump into it again because... well fuck it really, really hurts. And you get tired of hurting.
But you can't just coast through it either. We can't just... wait forever to trust someone. Going slow is wise, but not really putting yourself out there and waiting for it to all fall apart is a total cop out. And when you do that - you're creating the thing you're running from. No relationship can survive that. And so you'll walk yourself right into disappointment. But this time... no one let you down. You became the person who broke someone's heart. You became the one that wouldn't give yourself a chance at happiness.
Don't give into the temptation to stop trying because you're afraid.
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